A great philosopher once asked, "what is love, anyway?" His name was Howard Jones, and a wise man was he.

I've been in a few relationships. I've felt the full range of emotions from joy, exhilaration and ecstasy to rage, frustration and incredible sadness. I've kissed and made up, and I've worked the cruel dumpster. I've bent over backwards, and I've demanded unfair mileage. I've pleased. I've exasperated. I've loved. And I still don't know jack about it.

Over the last year, a few of my darling friends have endured the breakdown of their long-running relationships. They have, at turns, cried on my shoulder (and into their cocktails), spewed venomous anger from every pore, sought cathartic release in their blogs, and have, in general, nudged my monthly phone above the $200 line. One of them thinks love is forever, another believes love is manipulative, and the other can't see the point in it anymore - at least for now. No one has a clue.

But while we haven't found any solid answers at any of our archaeological digs at love, we have learn lessons with experience and unfortunately, age. Here's what I've found:

- There's no guarantee in "forever". People change, situations change and most importantly, context changes.

- Love will keep us alive, Love will keep us together, Love is all we need - it's all total bullshit. Relationships take time, effort, and sometimes, medication. Love is just the starting point - wait till you roll the dice.

- Sometimes we love the relationship more than we love each other.

- It's a dangerous thing to be lonely. (Yup. It'll just turn you into a freak and yah...LONELY person in both heart and mind.)

- It's not enough to love somebody - you have to like them too.

- We love because we can, because we want to, because we do. Sometimes it enriches us, sometimes it damages us. Sometimes it's da bomb, sometimes it's a bitch. Point is, love is like life - it happens, so buckle up and strap your kneepads on. Trying to define it only distracts you from the view.

As for me, I just have been wasting my time for the past year, taking pity on others, and thinking that "pity love" can be actual love. Man! Was I ever more wrong! Last year was one of the hardest year to past, both in heart and mind. It's was like a torture both mentally and physically. After that, I learned my lesson. Love can never be used for pity.

Using your heart to love someone is the most basic but yet the hardest thing to do. But I'm proud to say that this time round, I've done it. And we're happy for each other that we can still use our heart to love each other in this complicated times.

Another great philosopher said it best: "Love is love, there's nothing you can do." - Boy George

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